This week I sat in a Zoom meeting and it was really going somewhere, people were actively participating in the discussion and the questions were robust. When you are presenting you sometimes don't see a person's hand is up for comment or question, as in this case somebody in the group said '𝘔𝘴 𝘑 𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘪𝘴 𝘶𝘱', and immediately after the speaker was finished, she referred to Ms J to start asking her question. But before Ms J got to her question, she snorted that "𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘥 𝘮𝘺 𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘶𝘱 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘢 𝘭𝘰𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦 - 𝘐 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬 𝘐 𝘮𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘨𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘨𝘭𝘢𝘴𝘴𝘦𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘸𝘦 𝘨𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘤𝘩𝘪𝘭𝘥𝘳𝘦𝘯 𝘴𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘴𝘦𝘦..." Then she went on to share what she needed to. Well, I was stunned and shocked at the disrespect of this individual, to say the least. Her hand had been up 2 mins at the most, but be that as it may, it left me with a bad taste in my mouth. One of disrespect and dishonour towards the speaker.
ℍ𝕠𝕟𝕠𝕦𝕣 is a very special character trait. It means being polite and courteous to ALL people, regardless of rank or authority. It is valuing and honouring and bringing out the best in them. Yet, this is so rare today!
Honour has significantly diminished in its power and presence in most cultures in the last 50 years. We are taught at a young age not to trust people, and even in some cases to disrespect authority and parents. This comes from music, TV, movies, from the playground to the boardroom. Watching a sitcom portraying a cocky ten-year-old as savvier and more knowledgeable than the adults in the room may be funny on TV, but, in reality, it disintegrates society.
We have to realize that people are of immeasurable value to God. Therefore, we are to give each other ℝ𝔼𝕊ℙ𝔼ℂ𝕋 and ℍ𝕆ℕ𝕆𝕌ℝ that is real, with good motives and attitudes, and not pretentious, even those with whom we disagree, and those we dislike! There are at least 25 contentious issues out there today that could cause a great deal of dishonour and make us dishonour each other - but we need to understand that we can be different, we can believe differently in an honouring way. Stress and pressure also cause us to dishonour people, but we need to learn to exhibit ℍ𝕆ℕ𝕆𝕌ℝ in our everyday life. It becomes easier.
My friend, you hit the nail on the head. Adults make movies that kids watch then they moan that the kids have no respect. Mmmm. Just maybe if his world upheld the values we wanted to be treated by, it would be a better place.
I couldn't agree with you more, Monica. Since "honour" is pronounced with a silent 'h' could it mean "on our"....best behaviour/attitude...eg respect - I find this quite profound 😊
Pride is also often behind dishonour!
Monica you are an example for all of us in how to honour people.
Oftentimes we confuse a PEACEMAKER with a PEACEKEEPER. But what is the difference?
Peacekeepers keep peace from a place of fear through avoidance, while peacemakers restore peace from a place of strength through reconciliation. A peacemaker is someone who is willing to resolve both outer and inner turmoil in order to establish peace with others and within themselves. Inevitably, peace-making will require engaging in conflict and tension to help bring the situation to a solid place. A peacekeeper, on the other hand, desires to maintain peace by avoiding conflict. Peace-keeping is Passive, and Peace-making is Proactive.
We need people who are agents of change in our country in the times that we live... and I long for the day when there is a disagreement - that it does not have to equal disrespect... I need to be able to disagree with you and you need to respect me for that. So many people think that only if we agree can we be respectful, loving and caring - that is so wrong. I have been part of meetings where people are asked to leave because they disagree with them... That is not how we will grow and make a difference in our communities and cities.
As agents of peace, it is time we step up and take personal responsibility to MAKE peace in our communities and cities. It won't be easy. It will require conviction, diligence, perseverance, and a willingness to step out of our comfort zones.
LET'S MAKE PEACEMAKING A LIFESTYLE - WHEREVER WE GO, let's not shy from conflict but speak the truth in love and be AGENTS OF CHANGE in our homes, communities, churches, and work places. Let's not follow the trends of Twitter and all the fake news and gossips... I want to be a peacemaker wherever I go!!!
We had our very first, successful, virtual Annual General Meeting where we reported on our 2020 activities! 😁
Thank you to everyone who was able to join us, we truly appreciate your support! For those who have missed it, we have uploaded our entire AGM Zoom meeting and our Annual Report to our website, and you can find it under the Resources tab. (www.gcf.org.za/resources/)
We have reached the third day of this week’s Parenting Skills Training for prospective Temporary Safe Care (TSC) parents. Enthusiastic participants are gaining valuable knowledge, aiming to be added to GCF’s database for families ready to welcome children removed from their biological families. ❤
GCF believes that a safe and nurturing family environment always is the first option for any child and this training is one step on the way to avoid that children will experience residential care in institutions.
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